But we want it now! We want to lose 10 pounds by Friday. We want to rid ourselves of our worst habit by the end of this month.
Why, oh why, does it take so long for what we genuinely want to have happen?
When it’s time, it’s time, and when it isn’t, it isn’t.
Try to make something happen when its time has not yet arrived? Tricky.
Call this the “let-go-until-it-happens” approach to life - an approach that is ultimately much easier. It’s all part of not trying to control everything, trusting that “the universe” is listening and working on it.
Oh, sure. Do have some clarity about what you want. Focus. But then, don’t obsess so.
Recently I read an article about a woman and her sister who were experimenting with their ability (which they weren’t sure they had) to draw things into their lives by simply focusing on them.
For some reason they decided to test their ability to do this by focusing on the supermodel Christy Turlington. It was their test. Bringing Christy Turlington into their lives.
They put a lot of energy into it. Signs on their walls.
Pictures of her around. Writing affirmations. No Christy.
Eventually, on with their lives they went. Marrying. Years later moving to New York.
And then came the day when one of the sisters heard someone say, “Hold that elevator, please.” And from around the corner, into the elevator, stepped Christy Turlington.
I’m just saying. Honor the time between what was and what will be.
This is your life - uniquely yours.
If you think of your life as a work of music, consider every happening as a high or low note in the song of life.
You need all the notes.
You don’t get harmony when everybody sings the same note. Play and sing your own notes. Let others play and sing theirs.
Just the right amount of tension and the violin plays beautiful music. Too little tension and there’s discord.
Too much and it doesn’t work either.
Seek the balance between too much and too little tension.
Whine when you need to, but this is your life.
It’s a round-trip ride in which you have some control but not all.
Life asks you to flex and bend, adapt and adjust, take a stand and yet roll with the punches.
It can exhaust and exhilarate and defy understanding.
It could be short, in which case, live for today.
It could be long, in which case, plan for tomorrow.
Maybe there’s some destiny involved, mixed in with our choices. It seems as if there is.
Maybe we reincarnate; maybe we don’t. Maybe this is it.
We can think and debate and wonder about all these things, but ultimately this is your life.
May you like it.
Autographed by Cath
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Inspired to live a fulfilled and contented life? You may use the tune-ups on the following pages to create it. You will find them practical, insightful and effective whether you do them by yourself, with a friend or in a group.
- Pause and notice
- Slow-the-zoom experiment
- Experiment with acts of power
- Face this reality
- Practice the here-now experiment
- Master “slothing”
- Try daily-life intuition experiments
- Trust your knowingness
- Send love out into the world
- Decide “If not now, when?”
- Discover when you are really alive
- Ask and answer: “Do I like my life?”
- Help each other
- Act accordingly
Benefits are many: People are refreshed and skilled in the art of being human!